How to be the calm,
confident, happy man
who can lead his
Wife back to love
THE INCREDIBLY SIMPLE SECRET TO CREATING THE LOVE AND LIFE YOU REALLY WANT
Hey brother, we know there's a lot of uncertainty and fear going around these days. And when your marriage is also on shaky ground, things can get really overwhelming fast.
We want to help you slow down your anxiety and start taking steps to make things better, not worse. Not someday, right now.
An In-Depth, Laser-Focused, Online Program Designed To Give You Back Your Masculine Confidence, Clarity, Peace, Happiness, and Mojo When Your Marriage Is On the Rocks
RIGHT NOW YOU CAN JOIN THE
HOW TO DEFUSE THE DIVORCE BOMB
COURSE and COMMUNITY
for a one time payment of $197
Do any of these questions sound familiar?
If you've been asking yourself these things, then you are in the right place. We know exactly what you're going through. The good news is:
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
But the BETTER news is that there IS A WAY to immediately stop the nervous and frantic behaviors that are making things worse and to confidently begin to change your marriage and yourself for the better...
IMPORTANT: This is NOT a subscription. It's 1 payment for a lifetime membership.
WHAT IS THE HDDB COURSE?
How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a step-by-step course + coaching + brotherhood for men who want to:
- Stop the downward spiral of their relationship
- Start feeling more confident, calm, and clear-headed
- Be the man she really needs you to be right now.
This is not therapy, manipulation, or endless emotional processing. It is clear coaching on what to think, what to say, and what to do next so you can rebuild trust, and handle this phase of your marriage with more assurance and integrity.
+ AND FOR A LIMITED TIME ONLY+
YOU GET FULL ACCESS TO THE CONFIDENT MAN
RANCH RETREAT ROUNDUP COURSE
This course takes the core lessons from our powerful in-person ranch retreat experience and brings them straight to you. You’ll learn how to stop reacting from fear, neediness, anger, and insecurity; reconnect with your strength and mojo, get clearer about what you want, and show up in your relationship with more presence, confidence, and emotional steadiness.
It’s the perfect companion to How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb because saving your marriage can’t be about panic, pleading, or walking on eggshells. It starts with becoming the man you can respect (and so can she).
What are men just like you saying about the HDDB course?
without this course, I’m very sure my marriage would be over...
My wife and I have been married for 13 years. I went from a wife who in June 2022 was exchanging hundreds of texts a day with an ex-boyfriend (just friends, of course) Here's how things have changed:
She has gone from one who decided she still loved me but wanted to separate in July, to one who decided she wants to stay together “for the kids” in August, to one who now wants to start marriage counseling so we can be friends and lovers again.
I still struggle with feeling needy sometimes, but am more confident now than I was in 13 previous years. I know that I am fine by myself, but still love my wife and am growing more compassionate and giving of myself without resentment every day.
It’s a process, but I can honestly say without this course I’m very sure my marriage would be over. I wish I knew these things years and years ago.
-Mike C.
MODULE ONE:
Handling "D-Day" and What You Must Do Now
You're sitting in the fallout of the divorce bomb being dropped on you. What the hell do you do now? We hit the ground running in this module with immediate ways to change your thoughts and action for the better.
Take a Sneak Peek at Module One:
MODULE TWO:
How to Rebuild Trust and Attraction
Bickering and arguing KILL intimacy! In fact, research has proved that criticism, stonewalling and defensive reactions virtually guarantee divorce. This module dives deep into WHAT is going on and WHY it happens. Most importantly we give you detailed coaching on HOW to immediately stop the madness and start reversing the direction and build more trust and attraction in the process.
Take a Sneak Peek at Module Two:
MODULE THREE:
Creating the Relationship You REALLY Want
What do you want? It's a simple but complex question that men have trouble answering clearly, confidently and concisely. And when you don't know what you want you can't describe it clearly or even ask for it. In this module we'll help you get clear about what you want and understand what WOMEN secretly want. We are unapologetically direct about the growing sexual frustration you're feeling and how to effectively deal with rejection and the resentment it creates.
Take a Sneak Peek at Module Three:
MODULE FOUR:
Man With a Plan: Getting Clear, Calm and Confident About Your Future
If you've been feeling STUCK IN LIMBO this module is for you. We will have you navigate to a whole new mindset where you begin to feel excited about your future. You must have a plan and you MUST understand your options for creating what you want - no matter what she decides to do. We help you face your fear of the unknown and give you inspiring tools to fill your sails with more confidence and clarity than ever before.
Take a Sneak Peek at Module Four:
Of equal importance to the coursework is being involved in a community of men that have your back. Practicing the tools in everyday life and getting immediate feedback is essential to your growth.
SECRET Facebook Group for Men Only
In this group, you will be able to talk with other men who are going through the same thing that you are. This is where you can post your questions and comments or just vent if you need to. We (Steve and Tim) will also be active in the group, providing support and feedback. This is just as important as the course lessons if not more! (If you would rather not be on Facebook, we get it. That's why this group is unlisted and private. No one can access it without our permission. You can always use a "junk" email and post anonymously if you choose.)
Two Monthly LIVE Calls
Every month, Tim and Steve will be LIVE on a video conference call with men from all over the world, answering your questions, explaining concepts, listening to your stories, and sometimes just being there to say, "I get it, I've been there..."
Recordings of Every Live Call
Every call is recorded and available for those members who cannot attend live so you don't have to miss anything.
YOU ALSO GET ALL OF THESE BONUSES
Deeper Dive Videos:
"Not Suitable for WIFE" Videos
We guarantee that these companion piece videos for each module are unlike anything you will see anywhere else. They are completely unvarnished, edgy straight talk about the most sensitive situations you may be facing. We don't pull any punches when it comes to things like:
Special "Just Between Us Men" Lessons:
I Want Patience and
I Want It RIGHT NOW!
Some of you may want to skip right to this lesson because this one issue has overtaken every other thing in your life. We know that it is devastating to find out that she is having an affair (of any kind). In this video we tackle the hard questions that may be plaguing you as you grapple with the awful realization that there is another guy in her life.
Father Knows Best (How to Be a Rockstar Dad During Separation and Divorce)
Being a father during this trying time is a particular challenge. On top of everything else, you have children who are looking to you for guidance and support. Learn what to do and not do in order to help your kids cope and even thrive.
Is Marriage Counseling a Waste of Time?
Couples therapy is usually the go-to choice for marriages that are spiraling down. But is it really effective? Can it actually make things worse? Find out all you need to know about this tricky decision.
My Buddy Booze and His Pal Pot
Let's face it, no matter how "amicable" your separation is, divorce sucks. The temptation to numb out by getting drunk or high is huge (and understandable!) Find out why you may want to avoid these two "friends" for a while.
Cheating Cheaters and Lying Liars!
Some of you may want to skip right to this lesson because this one issue has overtaken every other thing in your life. We know that it is devastating to find out that she is having an affair (of any kind). In this video we tackle the hard questions that may be plaguing you as you grapple with the awful realization that there is another guy in her life.
In this course designed just for men, we're not afraid of being:
Deep, dark and .... funny.
Yes, you read that right. That's our teaching and coaching style.
We've been in your shoes and we know why lots of (irreverent) humor, a loving brotherhood and unapologetic optimism about your options is KEY to your thriving in the future.
We know that to stop the emotional free fall you are in, you must:
Create long-term connections with men who are learning to THRIVE after the Divorce Bomb.
Learn the deep, dark and sometimes AMUSING facts behind this all too common situation.
Make CONFIDENT, clear, and bold decisions in the coming weeks and months.
Create long-term connections with men who are learning to THRIVE after the Divorce Bomb.
Learn the deep, dark and sometimes AMUSING facts behind this common situation.
Make CONFIDENT, clear, and bold decisions in the coming weeks and months.
IMPORTANT: This is NOT a subscription. It's 1 payment for a lifetime membership.
I'M GOING TO BE OKAY REGARDLESS OF THE OUTCOME OF MY MARRIAGE
“I purchased the How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb course because I was experiencing fear and anxiety that my marriage was going to be over and wanted to find a way to save it .
These are the results I'm seeing now in myself and my marriage: she is willing to spend more time with me, I am more confident in who I am and where this path will take me and I believe I will endure this part of life and come out a better man.
In the course I learned that I am going to be ok regardless of the outcome of my marriage and I learned to to relax and be the man I want to be which allowed me to see a path that will lead to a better life for me, my kids and hopefully my marriage. I learned that there are things out of my control and there is nothing I can do about them. Letting go of those this will allow me to be more empathetic and understanding.
I am now able to understand that is not all about me and that I can only control my responses to my wife actions and decisions."
-Chris L.
Indiana
I'm about 99% my old self. Feels great! Can't thank you enough!
I want you to know you saved my life... even if I couldn't save my marriage. I'm about 99% my old self. Feels great! Can't thank you enough! It all works. You just have to trust the system, have faith and put your plan together. I now have both men and women asking MY advice. They want to know HOW I've gotten to this place. Awesome powerful stuff. "
-Bruce S.
Illinois
It is so full of real truth and wisdom
"I am beginning to feel more confident that I will be better than just okay after all this. No matter what happens. Thanks to both of you for creating this course. It is full of so much real truth and wisdom that I just keep finding myself nodding my head in agreement, and laughing a bit."
-Matt C.
Your Greatest Challenge Is Knowing Exactly What to Do Next
How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is not based on theoretical ideas or concepts. It is full of practical, time-tested, doable steps and practices that WILL move the dial for you.
The lessons in this course are designed to help you reduce your pressure on her and give you both breathing room to think and respond instead of just reacting. This will immediately make you feel more confident and start to rebuild trust with her that the changes your are making are real.
YOU WILL LEARN TO:
The nervous and anxious behaviors that
are making things worse.
Being a calm and confident man who knows who he is, what he wants, and where he's going.
We want your investment in this program to be easy.
Why? Because we know that the longer you wait, the worse things will get. We know that you will most likely make all the same mistakes we did (and probably already have!) And we know from the hundreds and hundreds of men who have told us, "I wish I had learned all of this a year ago!" that there is no time to spare.
So we want to get you what you need right NOW - without breaking the bank.
The training, teaching, coaching, and no-holds-barred straight talk PLUS all the bonuses, the private Facebook group,
and two LIVE calls every month
is normally:
$497
But right now you can get a lifetime membership for
$197
IMPORTANT: This is NOT a subscription. It's 1 payment for a lifetime membership.
STILL ON THE FENCE? CHECK THIS OUT:
Our NO B.S. 30 Day
100% Money Back Guarantee
We want you to be completely at ease in making the decision to invest in this program.
So here's our NO Bullshit guarantee: If you decide to join our program (after your FREE 3-day preview) you are not satisfied for any reason with what you have learned and experienced in the course, please drop us an email at steveandtim@mojopolis.com letting us know within 30 DAYS of your purchase and we will give you a complete refund. That's right, take a full MONTH to go through the course and decide if it helped you.
If the answer is "no way", then we'll give you a full refund right on the spot. No questions asked. That's our promise.
This Is Our NO B.S. 30 Day 100% Money Back Guarantee
We want you to be completely at ease in making the decision to invest in this program.
So here's our NO Bullshit guarantee: If you decide you join our program you are not satisfied for any reason with what you have learned and experienced in the course, please drop us an email at steveandtim@mojopolis.com letting us know within 30 DAYS of your purchase and we will give you a complete refund. That's right, take a full MONTH to go through the course and decide if it helped you.
If the answer is "no way", then we'll give you a full refund right on the spot. No questions asked. That's our personal promise to you.
WHY SHOULD YOU LISTEN TO US?
STEVE HORSMON (ACCORDING TO TIM):
If you already know Steve Horsmon, then count yourself fortunate. If not, then this is your chance to work with a man who will blow your mind and your socks off at the same time.
Steve used to be a Good Guy who tried to please everyone in his life (except himself of course). Today he is a Great Man who teaches other Good Guys who struggle in their relationships with women to become the confident men that theirs partners crave. From his years of experience as a coach, he knows how women think and the many traps that men fall into.
When it comes to telling it like it is, Steve is a straight shooter with a heart of gold. You’ll never meet a more honest, openhearted man and he generously shares his strength and knowledge with men from around the world.
His genius lies in his intuitive ability to know exactly how to handle relationship situations that baffle so many of us and then communicate those solutions in a no-nonsense way that makes everything crystal clear.
Bottom line: I'm honored to call Steve both friend and colleague as he is one-of-a-kind at being both.
TIM WADE (ACCORDING TO STEVE):
Tim Wade is a Speaker, Writer, and Coach who helps “nice guys” reignite their natural mojo and step into healthy masculine power without becoming insensitive jerk-holes. Tim has been working as an empowerment coaching since since 2010 and brings 25 years of experience in personal growth and transformation during which he trained with Landmark Education, The Pathways Institute, Insight Seminars, and many others.
Along with Tim’s professional training, his personal track record of long-term marriage, separation, divorce, and then happily divorced man gives him an almost endless supply of personal experience when it comes to creating a life that you love and thriving no matter what.
Here's the straight talk: Tim is a man just like the you and me. He's incredibly smart, inquisitive, insightful, wise and just as fucked up as the rest of us. It's from that authentic, humble place where his generosity and brilliance shine.
Tim is a close friend and confidant who I trust without question and I invite you to do the same. When it comes to a model of a man who never stops learning, trying, striving, loving, inquiring and improving... Tim's on my A-list of people I choose in my life. Throughout this course I think you'll find out why you'll want him on your list too.
WHY SHOULD YOU LISTEN TO US?
WHY SHOULD YOU LISTEN TO US?
STEVE HORSMON (according to Tim):
Tim says, "If you already know Steve Horsmon, then count yourself fortunate. If not, then this is your chance to work with a man who will blow your mind and your socks off at the same time.
Steve used to be a Good Guy who tried to please everyone in his life (except himself of course). Today he is a Great Man who teaches other Good Guys who struggle in their relationships with women to become the confident men that their partners crave. From his years of experience as a coach, he knows how women think and the many traps that men fall into.
When it comes to telling it like it is, Steve is a straight shooter with a heart of gold. You’ll never meet a more honest, openhearted man and he generously shares his strength and knowledge with men from around the world.
His genius lies in his intuitive ability to know exactly how to handle relationship situations that baffle so many of us and then communicate those solutions in a no-nonsense way that makes everything crystal clear.
Bottom line: I'm honored to call Steve both friend and colleague as he is one-of-a-kind at being both."
TIM WADE (according to Steve):
Tim Wade is a Speaker, Writer, and Coach who helps “nice guys” reignite their natural mojo and step into healthy masculine power without becoming insensitive jerk-holes. Tim has been working as an empowerment coach since 2010 and brings 25 years of experience in personal growth and transformation during which he trained with Landmark Education, The Pathways Institute, Insight Seminars, and many others.
Along with Tim’s professional training, his personal track record of long-term marriage, separation, divorce, and then happily divorced man gives him an almost endless supply of personal experience when it comes to creating a life that you love and thriving no matter what.
Here's the straight talk from Steve: Tim is a man just like the you and me. He's incredibly smart, inquisitive, insightful, wise and just as fucked up as the rest of us. It's from that authentic, humble place where his generosity and brilliance shine.
Tim is a close friend and confidant who I trust without question and I invite you to do the same. When it comes to a model of a man who never stops learning, trying, striving, loving, inquiring and improving... Tim's on my A-list of people I choose in my life. Throughout this course I think you'll find out why you'll want him on your list too."
every guy can benefit from this course whether married or separated, living with your wife, or not.
My circumstances (i.e., wife told me that she wants to separate) was the catalyst that sparked my interest that what I have been doing has not been working and that I could learn a lot from Steve and Tim’s course and from the other men that would be part of the course as well.
Steve and Tim gently set the tone from the beginning. They made it clear that this course would be about improving ourselves as men, and not about bashing our wives. I think every guy can benefit from this course whether married or separated, living with your wife, or not.
You must commit to yourself and put in the work. It feels great to post questions, comments, or concerns in the Facebook group and receive advice and support from men who have been there or are currently working on improving themselves and their relationships.
-Alan M.
Maryland
By the way...
This course is specifically designed for men. The content, the style, the language and even the sense of humor were all done with men in mind. (Specifically men much like us.)
That being said...
This is NOT a woman bashing club. We love women. We respect women. Our goal is to teach you how to be the kind of man that that women call "amazing."
NOTE: Although women are welcome to purchase this course, the secret Facebook group and LIVE Q&A are for MEN ONLY and we maintain these as completely confidential "safe spaces" where men can openly share with other evolving men.
By the way...
This course is specifically designed for men. The content, the style, the language and even the sense of humor were all done with men in mind. (Specifically men much like us.)
That being said...
This is NOT a woman bashing club. We love women. We respect women. Our goal is to teach you how to be the kind of man that that women call "amazing."
NOTE: Although women are welcome to purchase this course, the secret Facebook group and LIVE Q&A are for MEN ONLY and we maintain these as completely confidential "safe spaces" where men can openly share with other evolving men.
YOU ARE AT A CROSSROADS
AND YOU BASICALLY HAVE 3 CHOICES:
1. Change nothing and hope things get better...
2. End your marriage now...
3. Take on your life and create something new...
• About 80% of men will go with option #1. Fear of divorce and confusion around what to do causes them to either bury their heads in the sand and denying that anything really serious is happening or they wait on pins and needles for their wife to make a move so they can “react.”
• Another 15% will make a preemptive strike - either by having an affair or filing for divorce themselves.
• Only about 5% will realize that the only thing they can change is their own behavior and mindset, so they make a decision to become a better man no matter what happens. That's what we call the "5% Club."
WILL YOU JOIN THE 5% CLUB?
YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED
(Click on the question to see the answer)
Do you offer a payment plan?
Can you guarantee that I will save my marriage?
How can I know if it's already too late for me and buying this course would just be a waste of time?
Should I let my wife know I'm doing this course and share parts of it with her?
How can an online course have any effect on my marriage when it takes TWO to fix a marriage?
Will you really just give me my money back for any reason if I don't like this course?
There's No Need to Suffer Alone
and In Silence...
You're not the only guy who has stayed up late at night, sitting in the dark, secretly googling things like "How to Save Your Marriage" and "She Doesn't Love Me Anymore."
The only way to break out of the paralyzing fear, sadness, and anger is to get help from those who have already walked this path (and lived to tell the tale!) and to speak with other men who have your back.
We are excited to see you in the course, hear your story, and help you become a confident, unapologetic man.
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